Hello. I’m a mummy to two beautiful children, and to three who I miscarried who are now somewhere over the rainbow. When I miscarried, I was shocked by the silence around miscarriage given how common it is. As a clinical psychologist I’m lucky that I know how to find mental health resources but most women probably don’t when they’re in the raw pain of pregnancy loss. I believe in #be the change you want to see in the world and this site is my contribution towards that aim. Once I’ve written about pregnancy loss and ACT, I plan to move on to talk about using ACT ideas to support parenting young children – again using my own experiences for context.
On this site as I build it – still a work in progress I’m afraid – you’ll hopefully find links to practical and factual information about miscarriage which I found surprisingly hard to get hold of when I needed it. I found skills and strategies to help me cope emotionally with miscarriage from acceptance and commitment therapy resources and also from compassion focussed therapy resources so I’ve shared that here too. I also thought I’d share my own experiences to give some context for how these models can help. I’m only one voice so I’ve also tried to link to other sites where further identification, information or support might be available. I’m very open to feedback or other ideas of how I can improve my site content – whether you spot a typo or think I could explain myself better, just let me know in a comment and I’ll see what I can do.
Regarding my posts on ACT and parenting, my motivation here is a professional interest in early intervention and awareness of the benefits of the ACT model in parenting young children. I’m also writing during coronavirus lockdown and aware of how many families will be struggling with emotional well-being and lacking resources and support to turn to. Here I can offer my ideas, experience and resource links for further help. I believe ACT can be of use to all parents, not just those who might seek help from CAMHS or psychological services. I find it interesting that programs targeting improving childrens behaviour are available locally in the community for free while family wellbeing courses such as childrens mindfulness tend to be charged. Im aware someone reading this could feel they or their family members require professional counselling. In the UK, this can be accessed for free by asking your GP for a referral. Alternatively, there are increasing numbers of psychological therapists offering their services in private practice. I work in an NHS role normally although on maternity leave at present and am not able to undertake any private work. However I hope if you are at a point in life you feel that you require therapy that you find what you need – maybe look in the “further help” section for some signposts.
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